Ask LeAnn — Today

Dear LeAnn — signed, “Tired of Walking”

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Dear LeAnn, I have been married nineteen years and lately I feel like a piece of the furniture. He is not cruel. He is just... done noticing. My kids need me, my mother needs me, everybody gets a piece and there is nothing left on the plate for me. I am not asking permission to leave. I think I am asking permission to matter. — Tired of Walking

LeAnn answers

Sit down with me a minute, because I am going to tell you something nobody has said to you in a long time: you never needed permission to matter. You have been handing out pieces of yourself like a casserole at a church potluck and wondering why the dish came home empty.

Now, I am not going to tell you to leave that man, and I am not going to tell you to stay. That is not my chair to sit in. What I will tell you is this — being done noticing is a choice he is making every single morning, and being done disappearing is a choice you get to make every single morning too. Start small if you have to. But start where it is yours.

You signed your letter Tired of Walking. No. You have not been walking. You have been carrying. Set some of it down — and watch who picks it up.

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